Upon first glance, mending your broken heart seems impossible. After all, you’re dealing with strong sadness, anger, and desperation that are changing how you live. Everything you’ve known and become accustomed to has turned on its head, AND the one person that you’d normally turn to in a moment of crisis is the very person who is causing this pain. So how can you possibly mend your broken heart – yet alone in an easy way?

You must abandon the mindset that triggers and perpetuate your painful emotions. Relinquish the “couple” mentality. By this, I mean you need to stop thinking as though you are part of a couple and instead see yourself as independent with your own life to worry about.

Think about it… here are some common thoughts that might trigger a familiar sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach:

• Who will I spend my Friday night with?
• I have to go alone to Thanksgiving dinner.
• He/she was always the one I called right after I got out of work.
• My bedside is empty.
• Why should I cook dinner if I’m the only one eating it?

The above examples show your thinking in the relationship. Since you’re relationship has ended, having these thoughts remind you of what you don’t possess and rub salt into your broken heart.

In order to heal, you must start thinking like a single person. You’re not missing your “other half.” You’re complete on your own; and you’d like to date your ex again, but you’re not vulnerable because he or she no longer wants to be with you. If you can stop looking at yourself as part of a unit, you’ll put yourself in a position to nurse your broken heart back to health. Otherwise, you’re not allowing yourself to break the cycle in which every memory or routine stings an open wound.

This all sounds great theoretically, but how do you go about doing this? There are many secrets discussed in Bait Him Back and Bait Her Back, but I’ve included some quick examples below.

It’s vital you cease contact for a substantial amount of time. Nothing perpetuates that “couple’s mentality” more than seeing your ex immediately after your break up. Focus on yourself and your own interests, and that is nearly impossible if you’re hung up on what your ex is doing.

For some people, you’ll be surprised at what casual dating can do. Distraction is key. If you sit around in your pajamas all day reminiscing about the good times, you’re impeding your growth. When you eventually make contact, you’ll have nothing to say for yourself.

If your ex asks what you’ve been up to, you can’t say, “I’ve just been missing you.” That’s a total turn off. It’s much more attractive for you to evolve in spite of this setback rather than becoming victim to it. Show you’ve grown and added to yourself – and your ex will most likely regret their initial decision to break up with you. This is secret to having your ex want to be with you again.

Your heart can be mended and there are specific, easy, proven techniques to do just that. It’s when your mind gets in the way that your heart stays broken.

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Are you creative enough and willing to try anything as long as you two get back together? If your current ambition is saving the relationship, I’m all for it… just please stay away from the desperate measures listed below. They seem stupid because they are and people still do them. If you want your ex back, here’s exactly what NOT to do.

Paint protest signs

You might think that protesting made a difference in some of the world’s most controversial issues, so why can’t it work in your world? I mean just think about the intense topics that protesting has served in the past… war, abortion, taxes, capital punishment, animal cruelty.

If protesting can make in impact on these issues, why can’t it help you get your ex back? All you need is some poster board, a permanent marker, and no life to pace back and forth in his or her front yard, right? Protesting can happen in other forms like refusing to work or boycotting events.

Pretend you didn’t hear you broke up

He said what? She told you to take your things and go? When? Oh, you must not have been paying attention. It’s perfectly fine to let yourself into your ex’s apartment and spread out on the bed until he or she gets home from work. Just like normal, right? I mean, how can a break up be real if you weren’t informed about it? Try something like this, and you can expect the cops arriving to lug you away, and the word “crazy” becoming synonymous with your name.

Call the mom

Maybe he’s totally a momma’s boy or maybe her mom is her best friend, so if you can get her on your side, there’s no way your ex can get rid of you. You could offer to run some sort of errand or bring her a cup of coffee and claim that you were just “in the neighborhood.” This may sound like a perfect solution to you, but it’s truly just a super-bad idea and just plain won’t work.

Change passwords

If there’s a key to a shared storage area, an alarm code, or a password to get onto the computer, you can swipe keys, change passwords, or whatever else you have to do to make life difficult. Now you have something your ex needs. They’ll have to take you back if he or she ever hopes to get onto that computer or into that storage space again.

As difficult as it may be, somehow your ex will figure a way around this, and if somewhere down the road your ex does take you back, he or she won’t trust you with any personal information again – not the ideal healthy relationship.

Haunt your ex with subliminal messages

If you’re in the same bar, you can request the song that played on your first date. You can subscribe to various magazines and give them your ex’s address so they’re constantly reminded of you every time they check the mail. You can recruit friends to sit near your ex in a cafe or restaurant and talk loudly about you and how well you’re doing – a nice indirect way to make your ex regret their decision to break up with you. No, no, and no. Regardless of how sly you are, all three will prove to be epic failures.

Bribe your ex back

Think of your ex’s weakness then position yourself as the solution to this dilemma. If your ex is always short on cash and you know paying the full rent is going to be a struggle, let them know all he or she needs to do is take you back and then those hours and hours of overtime will be unnecessary. Does your ex have a pair of sneakers or a brand of cologne or perfume that the stores don’t sell anymore? What if you just “happen” to drop that into your bag?

You can play dirty if you want, but it’s childish and unattractive. Maybe they’ll take you back, but you’ll lose respect.

What should you do next?

If any of the above ideas are on your list of possible “get your ex back” techniques, scratch them off now. The chance any of these ideas will get your ex to take you back is miniscule at best. You’re pushing him or her away with every crazy technique you try. You don’t need to rack your brain trying to think of some creative way to get him or her back. You need the secrets, answers, and sure-fire ways that will get your ex to conclude on his or her own that he or she “needs” you back.

That’s why I developed Bait Him Back and Bait Her Back – so recent break-upees get all the resources you need to get back into your ex’s arms easily and discreetly. There’s no reason you should look sad and desperate when you can be seen as sexy, seductive, and highly coveted by your ex.

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You’re distraught, upset and heart-broken, so it’s understandable you’ll find yourself willing to do pretty much anything to get your ex back. The ten mistakes below are extremely common, and will almost completely kill your chances of getting your ex back. Undoubtedly you’ve either seen friends make these mistakes or maybe YOU made them in the past.

If you want to succeed in getting your ex back, avoid the following ten behaviors as if your life depends on it. Your life doesn’t depend on it, but your relationship does. If you manage to avoid the mistakes, you’re chances of mending your broken relationship are pretty damn good.

1. Panic Contact – This is what happens when you let your distress and shock get the best of you. You don’t know what to do. All you want is to change things back to how they were, rewind time, and fix the problem immediately. So you do the only thing you can think of and try to contact your ex hoping you can reason him or her back into dating you. And the more you panic, the more you end up instigating damaging contact. All your begging, crying, and screaming serves only to convince your ex that he or she made the right decision.

2. Laying on the Guilt – Once things start looking final and your begging doesn’t seem to be working, it’s natural to want to guilt your ex into staying with you – a bad idea.

Once you start saying things like, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t do this,” “I’ve given you so much and this is how you repay me,” and “I knew this would happen, you never were good at relationships,” you’re sending yourself down a dangerous path. This may seem like a valid tactic, but it’s really just a form of manipulation that will send your ex in the opposite direction you want them to go.

3. Settling for Friendship – You’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Your ex most likely loves you as a person, so when you agree to be “just friends,” it’s an excellent resolution for him or her. He or she gets to keep you in his life without dating you. Unfortunately, by demoting yourself to the role of friend, you end up setting yourself up to get hurt. Instead, you need to set boundaries. Seek out the support of other friends.

Don’t trick yourself into believing that remaining friends is the only way you can keep your ex in your life. You have to let go completely, especially if you want the chance of getting back together in the future. Remember, if you stay friends, you’ll have to be a “good friend” and support your ex when he or she starts dating someone else. Sound painful?

4. Sleeping with Your Ex – So you shouldn’t revise your relationship to not include sex (being friends), but you also shouldn’t reduce your relationship to just sex. Sleeping with your ex is “fun” for you ex, and a big “I hope” for you. But that hope is unlikely to ever pan out.

5. Resorting to Drugs or Alcohol – It may seem like there’s no alternative, but drowning your sorrows in this manner makes you unappealing to your ex and is dangerous to yourself. And when you finally come out of it, you’ll feel bad.

6. Spiralling into Obsession – It’s understandable, you’re hurt. So giving voice to your woes and discussing your ex is okay… to a point. If you’re talking about your ex constantly to anyone who will listen, you’re apt to drive away friends and family members in addition to driving away your ex. It isn’t healthy to obsess. Give your mourning the time it deserves then think happier thoughts.

7. Harassing Your Ex’s Friends – You shouldn’t be in contact with your ex at all in the early stages of your break up. That INCLUDES being in contact with his or her friends. Sometimes this might suck, but for your sake, it’s the best thing to do.

8. Spying, Stalking, and Anything Creepy – Let the characters in movies do all the spying. You need to focus on yourself and not on what your ex is doing. There is nothing you can do about it. You’re only going to rile yourself up.

9. Gifting Your Ex – You can’t buy your ex back with cute, thoughtful, or expensive gifts. Even if you could, he or she wouldn’t be interested in you… just in what you could give.

10. Badmouthing Your Ex – No matter how much you want to drag your ex’s name through the mud for hurting you, 99% of the time it will come back to haunt you. Be adult about your break up, and save your angry comments for behind closed doors.

These are the things NOT to do. But then what are the things you should be doing?

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One night, after one too many beers, the guy I was having a lovely chat, out of a sudden, started talking about women. And how it’s impossible to understand them. Why? Because they are driven by the chaos theory.

Well, that last phrase got me thinking. Really? That much chaos?

I guess that from the outside, this is how you see it, since a woman can get real moody, or change her attitude in a matter of seconds, without any apparent reason.

Usually, in most of the cases, this chaos is ordered. A woman wants mainly three things: attention, attention and.. attention. And for you to have time for her, to do stuff together, and some money will help as well (whatever you do, don’t act cheap).

So, you like someone. Maybe you work together, or it’s a friend’s friend, or just the girl selling you coffee every day. Don’t be shy! Talk to her. Socialize. But don’t be pushy, you’ll only scare her into thinking you’re a freak. And don’t expect everything to happen overnight. Take time for everything. Get to know her a little: what she likes, what music she listens to, what she does in her spare time. Help her with work or take the subway together from work if applicable.

These are small examples for you to understand that it’s the small things that count (at least at this stage). She might be skeptical at the beginning. But patience is one key. And not giving up is the other. Then, one day you’ll see that she might smile more around you, or have a different attitude towards you.

Then and only then should you take her on a real date.
So, you’ve been dating for a while, things seem to work, but she’s mad even if you are only 5 minutes late. Well, you should have texted her that you’re gonna be late! Next time you forget to text, get her some flowers. She might not be that mad But keep one thing in mind: always text. And try not to be late. This way you’re showing that her time is as precious and important as yours.

If you argue on things like coming home late from a guy’s night, or from football evenings, there only one thing to do beforehand: negotiate. Let her know from the beginning that it’s going to be a long night and that she shouldn’t wait for you. Also, assure her that the next day you’ll do something nice together. Remember one thing: never ever text her with things like “I’ll be home in 5” and then you don’t show up in exactly 5 minutes.

A woman likes stability. And to feel secure. If you take her out of the routine, she’ll freak out and make a scene, just because she doesn’t know how to react to the new circumstances. That’s where the chaos comes from.

But if you pay attention to her, make her feel useful and important, you’ll have no problems with beer nights or other issues that fit that pattern.

Here is a similar article regarding reverse psychology and how to use it to your own advantage: Reverse Psychology. (even if you weren’t together, these tips hold true for general situations)

Have you ever gone out with a man that you liked very much but he only wanted you to be friends? A man might often say that because he’s too sure about your feelings for him. Men are fighters; they want to scramble for your attention.

Apply reverse psychology on men and tell them tha you enjoy so much being friends that you can’t imagine being more than that. Hearing this, he will realize that you are not vulnerable and he’ll take the attack position. If you continue to play this role and try to keep the distance between you because “this is how friends behave”, you’ll get exactly what you want: his heart.

Reverse psychology means to manipulate people’s thinking in order to act exactly as you want, but to feel as if it was their choice. By definition, men are hardnosed and vain and this is why they may seem difficult to deal with. In fact, it’s a piece of cake if you know how to act. There are a lot of techniques to make someone do something that they wouldn’t do, such as NLP – neuro linguistic programming – but that’s psychologists’ theory. In practice, there are only a few aspects related to reverse psychology that you need to pay attention to.

First of all, don’t smother him! Even if he cares about you, living 24/7 next to you is not exactly what he wants. The feeling of dependence isn’t benefic to a relationship and it could lead to a wide range of motiveless reproaches, endangering the welfare of your friendship. Men appreciate when their girlfriends give them enough space for solving their own issues.

Even if you’re tempted to hang on him every moment of your life, this attitude will only lead to a separation. Reverse psychology says that you need to stop being his shadow and calling him every ten minutes. Further more, stop tackling him when he’s not beside you. Men need to feel appreciated, so don’t hesitate to show him that you care.

Besides that, another strategy of reverse psychology on men is showing your interest. Even if you don’t understand anything or it seems totally uninteresting to you, you should sometimes show him that you care about what he does and what he likes. Find out what his favorite team is, search for some information about it and then try watching a game with him.

But don’t forget why you are doing this: don’t try to catch all of his attention. He might be happy that you share the same interests with him, but he still wants to watch that game! If you act too fake, the theory about reverse psychology will be irrelevant and you’ll just become ridiculous.

Basically, getting his attention should be quite simple if you assimilate this type of attitude. If you want to become a major aspect of his life and determine him to reach for you, these reverse psychology on men tricks will surely be a starting point.

Here is a similar article that will make you understand more about this concept and how to use it to your own advantage: Win Your Ex Back Using Reverse Psychology. (even if you weren’t together, these tips hold true for general situations)

There are times when perfectly good relationships end, no matter how hard you’ve tried. You may think you’ve done everything you could to make him realize how much you love him, but he still ended up leaving.

Many women spend weeks and months grieving over a lost relationship, and it’s quite a normal, healthy reaction to grieve. But it’s not healthy to obsess over trying to keep in contact with him, trying to get him to speak to you or meet with you, or trying to make him understand how much you love him.

If he’s made up his mind to go, then he’s going and nothing you say or do right now is going to stop him.

Not today, anyway.

Let him have his space. Let him take some time to think about the relationship he’s just left. He hasn’t even had a moment to miss you yet, so how can he know what it’s like to be without you. Stop texting him, calling him, emailing him or otherwise pestering him.

Give him some time to miss you.

Accept that he’s made a decision, just as you’d expect a man to accept your choices if it had been you who had decided to end a relationship.

While you’re giving him some time and space, use this time to your own advantage. Accept the reality of being on your own for a little while and make an effort to do things that bring a little happiness back into your day. Try a new hobby, watch a fun film, go out with friends or find other things that will make you smile again.

Do things for yourself that make you feel good. Get your hair done, buy a new outfit or wear your make-up a little differently. When you look good, you feel good.

The point of doing all these things and accepting the reality of what’s happening with maturity is that your ex will eventually wonder why you haven’t called. He’ll start wondering who you’re with and what you’re doing.

Before you know it, he’ll be calling you. By the time you meet up again, you’ll be that happy, independent, smiling girl again who he fell in love with in the first place.

Did you know that even the worst relationships can be turned around into loving, happy partnerships very easily?

The key to fixing any relationship is to get attuned to what’s really going on in your relationship.

You see, far too many great relationships fail because men and women simply aren’t attuned to what each other really wants and how they really think. This can cause some people to try and do too much for the other person, or to act like someone they’re not in an effort to seem more appealing.

These things won’t work and they’re likely to spell doom for your relationship. What will work is becoming more attuned to what you really want from your partner.

At this point, far too many women will instantly think “but I want him to make me happy”. This is a common thought process in many women. They believe the man they love is responsible for making them happy and making their life complete.

What they fail to miss is that YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You get to choose what emotions you will accept in your own life. The great part about this thought process is that when you’re making yourself happy, your man will become happier too.

You see, by expecting someone else to take responsibility for the way you feel and think, you’re handing over the keys to another person and expecting them to drive the relationship wherever they want it to go. This might be in a completely different direction from where you had hoped to take it.

Spend a bit of time doing something that makes you happy. Watch a fun film. Hang out with the girls. Get your hair done. Go shopping. Go for a walk. Whatever. Just do something that makes you feel good.

You’ll become more attuned to what you really want and how you really want to be treated in your relationships.

When you’re feeling attuned to what you want and what works for you, your partner will suddenly begin to find you more attractive and want to spend more time with you.